8 best ways to deal with the presence of negative people around you
Are you in search of specific ways to deal with negative and toxic people around you? Do they make you feel less worthy? I get you, mate!
There are people who often give gray vibes whenever around. We all experience them. Their negative energy gradually changes our mental state and mindset into theirs and we reflect similar traits.
Negativity in people spreads an emotionally draining aura which is unbearable.
I understand you are searching for ways to deal with such people or at least push them away, that brought you to this blog.
Without further ado, let’s have a heart-to-heart communication about the 8 best ways to deal with the presence of negative people around you, that isn’t letting you live in peace.
1. Identify negative people’s characteristics
What are the negative personality characteristics that are unpleasing? You need to first identify them and then deal.
Most negative people are unaware of their hostile behaviors which are manifested through nagging, bad-mouthing, and hurting others; this goes so far that the victims of their negative attitude wish to give up.
If anyone around you always whines and complains about what they don’t have, remains unhappy, backbites a lot, finds comfort in disgracing others, or any similar qualities, then they sure are negative.
Such pessimist people are forever ungrateful and worried. They are paranoid and also make sure others see life through their eyes.
2. Set a perimeter before things go south
Behavior either positive or negative is highly contagious, but negative behavior engulfs you more like a heady perfume, difficult to get rid of.
You need to clarify healthy boundaries to keep difficult people away. No, it won’t dismiss your potential friends, rather, toxic fellows will back off knowing their limits. This works best to retain your sanity.
Failing to set a healthy perimeter, may result in long-term negative consequences. These effects imposed by the pessimists may result in stress, depression, and high demotivation.
Do you want to remain sulky and unhappy for whatever good life has to offer? Definitely not! Decide and specify the line to your peers which is not to be crossed, before it is too late. You won’t regret your decision.
3. Move back, remain calm, and ignore
If you know there is no positivity around someone, you need to move back. No matter how empathetic you are, what you are not is a psychologist.
If you listen to them more intending to help, it will be you who’d be needing it soon, so move back. Work on yourself, rather than working on them.
Once you’ve recognized the negative characteristics, remain calm and find a way to deal with them.
Here is how you can deal with negativity around you,
1) Be hopeful.
2) Practice gratitude.
3) Count your blessings and jot them down.
4) Talk to people that are supportive and avert your attention from negative thoughts.
5) Read good books, exercise, do gardening, and just inhale the positivity that nature has to offer.
It is best to ignore the toxic beings to the utmost, if ignorance is not an option, restrict your exposure.
When negative people know they cannot express their evil and toxic thoughts to someone, they’ll be irritated and wouldn’t want to come back for good.
4. Stop complaining
You must’ve noticed, repetition helps you in memorizing everything. Similarly, if you keep on complaining about how your negative peer tried to pull you down or how rude they were, you won’t let your mind breathe.
The first thing you want is to get them out of your mind to overcome the negative feelings, but if you don’t stop complaining you cannot forget them or their actions. You’ll feel vulnerable every passing day then.
Instead of complaining about those unworthy people who block positivity, it is important to invest the energy in productivity.
Once you decide not to take their negativity forward, you can easily forget and move on.
5. Utilize your time and energy
Know that when you’re constantly thinking about that one negative person in your life you need to deal with, you’re investing your time and energy.
Thinking about how to react to their negative attitude, how to fix them, and focusing your thoughts on them will just make you angrier with the idea of being helpless.
You’re wasting your energy that you could invest in maybe a life-changing career opportunity? When your brain is indulged in these thoughts you’re wasting your time.
How?
Suppose you have to meet them next week. From the point of plan onwards, you will count days till you end up at the dreadful meeting, then you meet them for 2-3 hours after the meetup you will again think of how they degraded you through their negative comments or gestures.
You’re getting how much time you lost?
Utilize the time you will likely lose, by making other plans too. Think of the hangout you will have after the meeting with your positive friends.
Find the positive in every negative, life will be easier.
6. Detach yourself from negative people and breath out their toxicity
I understand avoiding negative people is not easy, especially when they have a huge role to play in your life.
Let me tell you an anecdote about how I avoided my negative friend -who after years of friendship- I realized was toxic for me.
My life revolved around her, but time and again I realized she was never happy for me.
But, you know how we all are, right? We don’t want to get into uncomfortable situations even if that requires bearing torture forever.
When one day her negativity exceeded my tolerance capacity, I decided not to meet her ever again.
Guess what? From that day onwards I did not meet her for almost a year.
No, it was not easy initially but, I made the big decision and was merrier than ever.
Negative people manipulate us into believing we’re nothing without them when in reality without us they are nothing.
7. Practice self-confidence and believe in yourself
You just need to make the decision of taking hold of your reins and once you do that believe in yourself, completely. It will take time, but after that, you will be motivated, courageous, and confident than ever.
You will acknowledge your self-worth and realize how those negative people around you always stole the spotlight you deserved, making you believe you’re unworthy of appraises and incompetent.
Attention is like oxygen to negative and toxic people, they will do anything to attain it and step on anyone who comes in their way.
All you need to do is, jot all the positive things about yourself and be thankful. Know your unique qualities and be self-sufficient, not requiring anyone’s opinion on your actions.
Believe you can and you will!
Once you do that, you will know what you were missing on life, when living in that cave of negativity.
8. Befriend yourself and rule with a positive attitude
It is important to realize no one can be trusted completely. Instead of letting anyone else know about your intricate details and displaying your vulnerability, be your own friend.
Do not share your darkest secrets with anyone because people are opportunists. You never know who turns out to be your foe and then uses your secrets against you.
Be wise and communicate with yourself.
Nobody knows you better than yourself. You’re your best advisor, mentor, and friend. Talk your heart out in a personal diary or a voice recording then discard it later.
Did you know? When you talk to yourself about a problem you find the solution to it within your speech. It is known as private speech in psychology, common in children that develop self-directional and regulation skills, and high intellect.
Have a positive attitude. Your attitude directs your actions so, decide on a mantra, like “you know your worth, be positive” or “inhale positivity, exhale negativity”. Have a grip on yourself with a positive attitude and rule yourself before anyone else does.
Let me know, how do you deal with the negative energy in your surrounding?
